Why some single girls settle for married men
November 24, 2014
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I’m sure the fellas would like to know why single
girls settle for married men. And I didn’t say young girls because it’s not
always the case,though most men love them young. Most people think single
“young” girls go for married men just for money then I ask this
question;if it’s about the money, why do some get so attached and in some cases
settle for being second wives? I believe its more than that… Though we live
in a crazy world where unspeakable things happen,I feel there are reasons why
single girls prefer married men. Before I go on,most married men are really
experienced in the sense that,they’ve been in relationships,they’ve switched
careers,they have children…they know so much that they come exactly when
these single ladies need them. These ladies settle for married men because;
girls settle for married men. And I didn’t say young girls because it’s not
always the case,though most men love them young. Most people think single
“young” girls go for married men just for money then I ask this
question;if it’s about the money, why do some get so attached and in some cases
settle for being second wives? I believe its more than that… Though we live
in a crazy world where unspeakable things happen,I feel there are reasons why
single girls prefer married men. Before I go on,most married men are really
experienced in the sense that,they’ve been in relationships,they’ve switched
careers,they have children…they know so much that they come exactly when
these single ladies need them. These ladies settle for married men because;
They have daddy issues
Some ladies are just daddy’s
girls;these girls depend on men for everything. They grow up being so attached
to their dads (mother’s don’t like that btw!) That the minute the focus is no
longer on them,they start acting childish;I call it childish because I can’t
imagine a grown woman trying to be what she’s not just to get her dads
attention.
girls;these girls depend on men for everything. They grow up being so attached
to their dads (mother’s don’t like that btw!) That the minute the focus is no
longer on them,they start acting childish;I call it childish because I can’t
imagine a grown woman trying to be what she’s not just to get her dads
attention.
They are so spoilt and sometimes greedy (some women have it all but
they are just used to getting whatever they want whether they need it or not) that
they have everything at their beck and call. Some married men make them feel
this way;protected,nurtured and provided for ,that it reminds them of their
fathers’ .
They seek financial help
The economy is bad,graduate
are paid less to nothing,there are hardly jobs,some women are really lazy,they
don’t feel they should work for money… You see with a terrible
economy,especially a country/world were it feels like a man’s world,it’s very
obvious why these married men seem to have control. Mind you,not all married
men are well to do but these particular ladies go for the wealthy ones. And
these men are aware,that’s why you can’t see a poor married man looking for
women…e don chop belle full (are they healthy enough)? Whether single guys
want to accept this or not,women(and everyone loves money) are materialistic
(and just like everything has limit,this does). You know how kleptomaniacs sniff
money/items without knowing how it got there in the first place? That’s how
these men can tell desperate single girls
in need.
are paid less to nothing,there are hardly jobs,some women are really lazy,they
don’t feel they should work for money… You see with a terrible
economy,especially a country/world were it feels like a man’s world,it’s very
obvious why these married men seem to have control. Mind you,not all married
men are well to do but these particular ladies go for the wealthy ones. And
these men are aware,that’s why you can’t see a poor married man looking for
women…e don chop belle full (are they healthy enough)? Whether single guys
want to accept this or not,women(and everyone loves money) are materialistic
(and just like everything has limit,this does). You know how kleptomaniacs sniff
money/items without knowing how it got there in the first place? That’s how
these men can tell desperate single girls
in need.
They are going through a bad breakup/difficult time
People go through one thing
or the other and have different ways they sort it out. Some ladies go through a
bad breakup by jumping into another one immediately (this is what they call the
rebound phase which can be very dangerous
because you are very vulnerable and not ready hence liable to make big
mistakes) and sometimes married men. I have a friend that have been good in
relationships,dating single guys,being faithful and committed yet no man seem
to want to put a ring on it. After her time with these ‘single guys’,she realized
there was nothing she could make out of the relationship;she ended up feeling
like sh*t,they (guys) didn’t have goals (or maybe they did but not with her)…they
were just wasting her time and doing nothing for her. As far as she knew,she
was just someone’s girlfriend that satisfies him in the kitchen and bedroom. And
then she meets a married man that well, might not be interested in her cooking
but gives her the time she needs and money to help her through her
difficulties. In a nutshell,someone that is very opposite from the guys she
used to know…having in mind that at this stage she’s very vulnerable (she’s
not thinking about him being married with kids,she’s just glad that someone
appreciates her).
or the other and have different ways they sort it out. Some ladies go through a
bad breakup by jumping into another one immediately (this is what they call the
rebound phase which can be very dangerous
because you are very vulnerable and not ready hence liable to make big
mistakes) and sometimes married men. I have a friend that have been good in
relationships,dating single guys,being faithful and committed yet no man seem
to want to put a ring on it. After her time with these ‘single guys’,she realized
there was nothing she could make out of the relationship;she ended up feeling
like sh*t,they (guys) didn’t have goals (or maybe they did but not with her)…they
were just wasting her time and doing nothing for her. As far as she knew,she
was just someone’s girlfriend that satisfies him in the kitchen and bedroom. And
then she meets a married man that well, might not be interested in her cooking
but gives her the time she needs and money to help her through her
difficulties. In a nutshell,someone that is very opposite from the guys she
used to know…having in mind that at this stage she’s very vulnerable (she’s
not thinking about him being married with kids,she’s just glad that someone
appreciates her).
They are emotionally unstable hence can’t be alone
Some women loathe being alone
and this is a problem. Though we barely have or visit a therapist in Nigeria,it’s
important that this women find who to talk to. That is why it’s encouraged that
women have good friends they can count on. Friends that won’t judge you and
understands where you are coming from,friends that loves you and have your best
interest at heart,friends that are always there for you. When a woman is scared
of being alone,she will settle for anything. Imagine where the single ‘young’ guys
she knows are unavailable (in relationships or not ready to commit),disrespectful
and broke…yes,some men possess these features and some women actually settle
for these type of men! And then she meets a caring,respectful and available(for
the time being) married man…
and this is a problem. Though we barely have or visit a therapist in Nigeria,it’s
important that this women find who to talk to. That is why it’s encouraged that
women have good friends they can count on. Friends that won’t judge you and
understands where you are coming from,friends that loves you and have your best
interest at heart,friends that are always there for you. When a woman is scared
of being alone,she will settle for anything. Imagine where the single ‘young’ guys
she knows are unavailable (in relationships or not ready to commit),disrespectful
and broke…yes,some men possess these features and some women actually settle
for these type of men! And then she meets a caring,respectful and available(for
the time being) married man…
Some have lost hope in love.
The world is a crazy place
and sometimes make people lose hope or get confused due to their experiences (its
not all that bad!)… A world where love means nothing anymore,where married
couples have groupies and cheat on each other with no regard for the holy
matrimony and vows they made to God.. I still believe in love and that it can
be found anywhere not necessarily from your partner but from
family,children,friends and let’s not forget God is Love. How do you think nuns
live their lives?they don’t get married but they know and believe that they
have the greatest love of all,which is from God, is good enough for them. Some
people have this notion that love can only exist in relationships (between a
man and a woman) that it can’t be found anywhere else. Also, they feel all men
are the same,therefore they cannot differentiate a single one from a married
one.
and sometimes make people lose hope or get confused due to their experiences (its
not all that bad!)… A world where love means nothing anymore,where married
couples have groupies and cheat on each other with no regard for the holy
matrimony and vows they made to God.. I still believe in love and that it can
be found anywhere not necessarily from your partner but from
family,children,friends and let’s not forget God is Love. How do you think nuns
live their lives?they don’t get married but they know and believe that they
have the greatest love of all,which is from God, is good enough for them. Some
people have this notion that love can only exist in relationships (between a
man and a woman) that it can’t be found anywhere else. Also, they feel all men
are the same,therefore they cannot differentiate a single one from a married
one.
Though this article is not to
defend any single girl going for a married man and I know it’s not easy
(temptation,wants and needs) but I know as long as you are focused on whatever
it is you want to do,you’ll get there. You don’t need them! I feel if these men
are willing to help you,they won’t ask for your body,they’ll just help you. And
those of you looking to fill that daddy love? They’ll just be there for that
time. They are not doing you any favor,they probably have their reasons for
being with you at that time as well.Because these men are just in your life to distract
and waste your time,some spiritual people might say;take your luck or destiny
(though they are not all fetish,you never know…). But trust me it’s not worth
it;you’ll end up feeling emotionally drained, filled with regret and contempt
cos these men will not leave their wives and kids for you.
defend any single girl going for a married man and I know it’s not easy
(temptation,wants and needs) but I know as long as you are focused on whatever
it is you want to do,you’ll get there. You don’t need them! I feel if these men
are willing to help you,they won’t ask for your body,they’ll just help you. And
those of you looking to fill that daddy love? They’ll just be there for that
time. They are not doing you any favor,they probably have their reasons for
being with you at that time as well.Because these men are just in your life to distract
and waste your time,some spiritual people might say;take your luck or destiny
(though they are not all fetish,you never know…). But trust me it’s not worth
it;you’ll end up feeling emotionally drained, filled with regret and contempt
cos these men will not leave their wives and kids for you.
So why do you think single
girls go/settle for married men?
girls go/settle for married men?
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