Sex to me is not something you should do if you don’t want to or
because every other person is doing it. It should be about that closeness,
friendship, respect and most especially love. i was in love once and young. i
used to think that if you love someone you should be able to give them what
they want even when it’s not want you want or at least yet.
Wanting to have sex with someone because you don’t want to lose them shouldn’t be a good reason. If the individual doesn’t understand that you are not ready or maybe understands and yet cheats on you then maybe both of you were not meant to be. Because the fact is the guy will cheat on you if he wants to whether you decide to sleep with him or not.
As a teenager or a virgin, new to sex, you want your first time to
be with someone that loves you as much as you love them. Yes some people lose
it really early and don’t really care who takes it while some are really
sensitive about it and might feel used after experiencing it.
Anyways i haven’t had it in a while because i don’t see the point
of it. As a human being you might feel like it but then when you remember how
fast it comes and goes, you ask yourself if it’s really worth it. And most guys
I’ve met are just after it and nothing else that you wonder if we as women are
just sex objects and have nothing to offer.
So i made a pact that i wouldn’t have sex till I’m married and so
far i don’t have any regrets’. If
a guy/man it’s not patient to be with me because of my sex laws then he’s not
for me i the first place. And i know it might take time to find someone that
really gets you and is willing to wait for you until you are ready but it’s
better than living your life in regret every time you have it (sex).
For some people sex might be nothing, some even see it as a form
of exercise that when the urge comes they just want to do it with whomever they
are with or some random guy. I’m not judging but i feel it should be more than
that you know. It should be with someone you feel safe with, someone that loves
you for who you are and feels exactly the way you feel about them or more. Some
you can tell your secrets, trusting they would keep them, someone that can’t imagine
making love to no other than you.
It’s a long story and that while I’m writing my book hoping it
will get published someday. I have a lot to say that my blog is not enough to
place it. But I’ll get there someday! Sorry it took a lot of time to post this,
i work six days a week and barely have the time, just had to squeeze this in. i
hope to quit someday and focus on this. Which i will!
Thanks for reading, as always!