PLEASING YOUR WOMAN

PLEASING YOUR WOMAN
Photo Credit – Redbook Magazine

Ever wonder why women are so complicated that most of the time you wonder what goes on in their heads? How we have problems with each other and take ages to make amends while the men are so easy going and not that complicated? Just the way you don’t know women that is just how you don’t understand what pleases them. 
Women are naturally submissive, that’s why they are wired to be very enduring and compared to men, are very good in pretending. I say this because most of the time, men think they are pleasing their women…well, they are not eighty percent of the time, they just pretend to be. The way women are created differently, although we were given the same features; they are wired differently (in their behavior, dos and don’ts and attitude. Because you were lucky with the first one (or she pretended to like that), doesn’t mean the next one would love it too, if not why are you off to the next one?
Before I go into how you should please your woman and in case you forget most of the things that would be discussed on this article, don’t forget this; Listen and be observant to and with your woman. Yes! We like to talk, its part of us, we can’t change that. Though you won’t listen most of the time, take out some time to understand her; you don’t have to do it all the time but if you want to be happy, you just have to.
You have to please your woman, emotionally, sexually and financially…. 


Emotionally
That’s the best part, like I said “we love to talk”. Why do you think we gossip? Or like to hangout with our friends most of the time even though we hate ourselves 50% of the time? It’s because though we love to compete with one another, we still want to talk about our man and our experience at work so we could feel better about ourselves also knowing that we are not alone. Some men might think calling your girl everyday would seal the deal of emotional satisfaction but you are wrong; quality over quantity. What if you don’t feel like telling her anything? You are just calling because you heard we love it or because your friend told you so or from your past experience. The only way you can please a woman emotionally, is by being there; and I’m not talking about being her body guard or when you think she needs you but being there as her companion. It could be when she’s trying to make an important decision, when she’s torn about something, confused, sad or excited ….those important moment in her life that she would never forget and she’ll be glad that her partner helped her through it or was present during that time.
Where she feels and knows that she can always count on you. No one is perfect, sometimes it’s the little moments that matter; like I said we are different despite our features (which also comes in different shapes and sizes)

Sexually

You see, most men especially in this part of the world think they know what women want sexually that they just do what they think is right or probably what they watch on TV or from porn movies without “connecting” with their partner. Yeah, some women (and I assure you, very few of them) might not like the pep talk before sex but how would you know if you don’t understand you woman? Some men talk about how sex bonds a man a woman – baby when we make love, it bonds us…How? When you just looking for how to release every tension. You are not even thinking about how she feels, if she’s in the mood or how you can get her in the mood. Some guys, when horny; just walk to their girlfriends and expect their girlfriends to be horny at the same time…It doesn’t work that way,you have to butter her up. She’s not a sex toy that we you feel like or its ‘time’, she just opens her legs until you are satisfied and then you go to sleep? Nah…before you embark on your “sexcapade”, check the kind of mood she in first, stroke her hair, her back, legs, ears or whatever gets her mo jo going. You could talk dirty but not immediately (after you’ve gotten her attention), it all depends; it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
Women love to be touched and gently,cos just like our hearts, we are fragile! Although some women like it rough while some don’t like to be touched at all, probably from past experience; that is why communication is important. You need to connect emotionally with the opposite sex to actually ‘make love’ except it’s a booty call /one night stands (which I don’t encourage because someone always gets hurt), if that’s your thing. Love making can be wonderful and exciting when you partner knows where and how to get you in the mood; you know the right button… You both feel confident, she feels like you understand her body and feel she’s sexy ,like John Mayer’s Song ‘her body is your wonderland’. Therefore, foreplay is very important in setting the mood; some women love the boobs to be fondled, some like to be sucked on the upper or lower part of their body, some love to be licked all over (phew! you got a lot of work man and some hydrating to do, lol) some love freaky stuff (I wish I could mention on here); you’ll be amazed at what your partner craves if you could only pay attention to their response while you ‘experiment’. With positions, some love it from the back, some military style, some on top; maybe on the sofa…at the end of the day, just pay attention to her response. Having in mind that we can fake orgasm, especially married women (because they won’t to bruise you ego); that’s where connection set in. If you are not connected to your partner, you cannot understand what she’s feeling.

Financially
First of all, money is not everything but you need it in this world you live in. Imagine you have a girl that is so pretty and well put together, how do you think she looks that good? Yeah most times its good genes but everything requires maintenance. And don’t give me that BS of paying for sex talk; this has nothing to do with it. You know, some men are so, I don’t know whether to call them wicked or inconsiderate; you see a girl managing herself (probably doing a job she hates just to sustain herself) with a very low salary, sometimes she complains to you, sometimes she looks haggard but all you are thinking is she works now, she should be able to look out for herself. What would it take you to give her some money to buy some toiletries, make her hair or change wardrobe? Whether she works or not; people get broke sometimes! If you understood where she’s coming from (still the communication and connection discussion), she doesn’t need to ask you to take care of her, you should know that. You see some guys say, they are dating a girl and they’ve never spent one naira on her; sometimes she comes to your house and use money that she doesn’t have to cook for you and don’t get me started on the distant relationship. Some men are so wicked that they probably think seeing them is the best thing that would ever happen to you that they can’t even give the poor lady that came all the way from Lagos to Portharcout ,transport fare.

And you wonder why your relationship doesn’t last? You tell people she left you because you were not successful or because of money… trust me if you were not generous when there was nothing, you can’t be when there is everything? Just like women pretend to have an orgasm they can also pretend to take your shit until they find someone that understand what it means to have a woman by their side. Before you got married or started dating, I believe you have sisters, if not you have mothers… Whether your mum works or not, don’t you give her money? Whether she asks or not; when you see something you feel she might like, won’t you get it for her? That is the same way you should feel about your partner. Besides giving money to your partner might not necessarily involve taking care of her physical appearance; not all women are airheads though we make you believe so… Some women are career driven and have projects they plan to embark on but don’t have the finances to do so or they’ll have to work for ten years at their job to save up. If you are capable, why not save her the stress; when I say this, I’m not saying you should encourage her to quit her job. You could help her with the money or help her save her money (by assisting with other things that might be preventing her from saving for a short time) so it doesn’t have to take her ten years to do so.

This article is meant for married couples, people that are committed /want to be committed in a relationship (although I won’t recommend sex before marriage, I can’t control your libido either,hehehe). At this juncture,I’d like to know how you please you woman and ladies how does your man please you or how would you want him to? Feel free to share and comment…

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